Friendship

I've been thinking of it for the past few days. Friendship?

Friendship are basically formed through trust and mutual understanding. Simple but yet hard to achieve!

I realized that there are several stages of friendships. And every stages of friendship occurs at a different time of your life. And each time of occurrence, the friendship will have a different level of impact in your life. Each impact will affect the bonding strength of your friendship. And the bonding will determine the degree of intimacy between your friend and you.

You will have different friends at a different stages of your life. It's not how many friends you've made, but it's how you maintain the friendships.

Recent study found that social ties boost survival by 50 percent and bad for a person's health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day or being an alcoholic.

Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad says:"A naturally occurring friendship is very different than someone who has been hired to be your buddy or your friend."

Research has shown that friends "provide a sense of meaning or purpose in our lives," she says. 

"A professional "friend" might be able to provide some tangible resources that would be helpful, but they might not be able to provide the emotional benefits."

"There are types of things you can get from an online friend, but there are other resources that you cannot." 

Although online connections "might be better than nothing," substituting time in front of a screen is likely not as beneficial as a phone call or face-to-face conversation.

What she said was very true!

However, do not make frenemy as it raises blood pressure! Frenemy is the enemy disguised as friend. There are a lot of frenemy around you especially in this realistic world. They will talk something bad behind you and you knew it but both of you still pretend he or she is your friend.

Nowadays, most friends tend to get something from you in by befriended with you. Those are hypocrite! You give them some benefits and they will happily be your friend. But, when they could not gain benefit from you anymore, they will leave you.

However, this might not always be the case as some of them are just too busy with their life managing other friends and accidentally neglected you. Call them even though they did not call you. You might be surprise what the outcome would be!

So, give more calls to your friends, meet outside, order a coffee, sit down and have heart to heart conversations.

Treasure each of your friends. Be sincere and honest to them. Love them!

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